In my lifetime, I have come face-to-face with psychopaths and manipulators several times and gained some valuable experience, which I am now going to share.
Many have surely noticed that women are rather strange and complicated creatures, and as far as relationships with men are concerned, this is doubly true. In translation---rapist, junkie, hypocrite, criminal element or other "bad boy" = a charming lover, while a kind, dedicated, attentive and decent man = at best a friend, at worst that nosy jerk who always annoys.
The remark about "charming lover" is especially true for psychopathic manipulators, who gradually destroy a woman mentally. We recognize such a psychopathic relationship quite easily, but usually only after a long period when we notice unusual and suspicious behaviour.
The manipulator is lying in the first place. He's lying and adjusting to the truth about when and how it suits him to get you where he needs to go. He'll make up stories to make him look better, more interesting, the way he wants to be, or to spark interest in him---in any sense of the word. He will repent, to put himself in the role of eternal sacrifice, to which the whole world is evil and unjust. If he's mean to you, he'll often apologize by saying "But everyone was mean to me too, I don't know anything else, so don't be surprised." or "You deserved it."
I mean, such a manipulator is also very jealous, for you are his victim, who is supposed to show interest in him and meet his needs, not to devote time to someone else. Then maybe you'd be in danger of flushing behind another, and then what about a poor manipulator who'd have to look for another victim to suck up emotionally? So, as soon as you demand your time with friends, you will feel free to see sentences such as: "So go and have your life.", "Either me or him/them.", "Who is more important to you?", etc. swearing, insulting and dropping is also commonplace, for such a psychopath suffers from a lack of empathy (he is too self-interested in himself and his unmet needs to really care about the feelings of others and able to empathize with them), on the other hand, he tries to endanger you, to knock down your self-esteem, so that he can manipulate you more easily and ideally make you feel that you will not find anyone else who can endure someone as impossible as you.
But watch out! If you offend and show it, you will see theatrical apologies (or even gifts), take-offs, sweet compliments and choking, how sorry he is for the insults and that he will not do it again. However, let us not forget the above---the manipulator lies terribly! His words tend to be cheap, empty, false, as well as mountains of promises he likes to make but doesn't keep. It is so easy to promise and speak beautifully, thus keeping the victim in the hope of a better day---so that she does not wrap it up so quickly and still show interest in her manipulator.
The manipulator needs interest and attention like salt. If he doesn't have it, he tries to force it with various outputs, fabrication, or hysterical outbursts or threats... most often by suicide.
I remember years ago my then-friend was dating an exemplary psychopath. Whenever she indicated to him that she wanted to leave him, he freaked out. One day he was holding her out of a fifth-floor window, that he'd rather throw her out, other times he'd smash the glass with his head to jump around him and take care of him, or he'd slit his throat and veins in front of her... Others are standing on the window or texting "I'll kill myself!' And then he turns off the phone and doesn't call to scare you and arouse remorse. Others go even further...
Psychopaths only care about one thing --- to have power over you, emotionally or otherwise, so that they can use you for their unmet needs (because in childhood they often suffered from a lack of love and interest). Such a person basically does not know true love, does not believe that anyone could love him just like that, and he himself knows only a morbid dependence on the interest of others. If your interest falls or does not meet the requirements of your psychopath, he will dump you like a used rag and look for a feeling of intoxication elsewhere. He doesn't really care about your feelings.
Setting such a person an imaginary mirror and acting, in the same way, is of no importance, then he sees his actions as a mistake, but in a completely different light than others --- he begins to lie more and manipulate more thoughtfully. Another setting of the mirror is then wandering in a vicious circle, where you basically play, which of whom and you have a destructive influence on yourself. A man like that won't change if he doesn't want to. No one can save him and help him, for it is a superhuman experience. If you try, your psychopath will always be little and will have no respect for anything. What's more, he's going to accuse you of trying too hard, and that you're actually one of those the bad guys who, like everyone else, are still hurting him... but he loves you so much!
Indeed, it is best to run away from such a person and not be dragged into his manipulative, destructive games. One like that, once you get into trouble yourself, it never helps, it just drags you down more and more. So good luck in choosing!
