If someone no longer calls you, the reason might not be that they're busy. Perhaps they simply no longer wish to call you. If they no longer want to meet you, the meaning might not be busyness but unwillingness. They simply no longer desire to see you. If they treat you badly, it might not mean they're having an off day. It could mean they no longer care about you at all. If they let you go, don't always assume that circumstances are forcing them to do so. Perhaps they've created such circumstances themselves because they no longer want to be with you. Do you really want to stay with someone who can't stand and fight against circumstances for your sake? When they tell you, "I need more time, I'm not completely ready yet. I truly love you so much, there's nothing else I want in this life but you. But not now—I need a little more time to accept you," then understand that saying such things requires no real emotion or feeling from them. Such words are always ready at the tip of their tongue. Stop thinking foolish nonsense and learn to accept the truth: they don't want to keep you in their life, but they want to keep you hanging. Stop the futile habit of forcibly imposing logic and reasons on their puzzling behavior and words. They can easily make you believe countless lies, because you wait in your heart, hoping their lies will turn out to be true! I mean... seriously!? Does any of this make sense? Enough is enough—how much more? Write it down somewhere if you must: from this relationship, you'll get nothing but pain. When the time comes, check for yourself! When someone truly wants to stay with you, they don't create such fireworks of lies, lame excuses, and unnecessary complications—instead, they think about and work on the ways to stay. If you feel something is wrong somewhere, know for certain that something truly is wrong! Intuition never lies. Stop being foolishly sincere toward them. Stop looking for logic in their every wrong behavior and word. Think about yourself. There's truly no point in giving your entire self to someone. If you do give everything, then what will you live with when they leave? Remember, people leave. They leave for reasons, but even more often, they leave for no reason at all! Come away this very moment from the futile dream of spending your life with someone so worthless and incompetent—someone who doesn't even know what they want. However long you've been with them, whatever has or hasn't happened between you, all your sweet memories together—leave all of this behind and walk away with your eyes closed. Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't understand your worth? Remember, compared to peace, love is a very trivial thing. You need someone who understands you, who accepts you as you are, who truly knows how to value you, who can go to war against the entire world for you. Stop suffering such needless pain for someone who isn't at all to your liking. Turn your attention elsewhere, keep yourself busy with various tasks. When people have nothing to do, they fall in love more. So keep yourself busy with different activities. Busy people don't even have time to eat—where would they find time to get entangled in all this love-romance nonsense? Give yourself the chance to be happy. You too have the right to be happy. Have faith that next time, someone will come into your life who will know how to keep you well, someone you can keep well while staying well yourself.
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Dada, amar bestfriend o hotath kore thik amon e bodle jai, amar jonno tar kache somoy nai, se bole se job nia besto, othocho ami dekhi se tar life er baki sob kisu e maintain kore choltese, sudhu amar dik ta bade, tar onno notun friend er jonno time ase thiki amar jonno nai, goto 9 mashs sudhu tar kase ektu somoy vikha chaici se kothay kaje bujai ber ber se busy. Take niomito gd nyt msg ditam edaning se onno karo sathe phone a kotha bolte bolte vule e jai j tar bestfriend goto 4 year dhore take aki time a same msg dey. Tai akho hal chere dici. Akhon ar take birokto kori nah. O nije theke msg dile sudhu reply dey, nije theke kono kotha barai nah, akhon ken jani mone hoi tak na se nijer moto valo thak, jodio nijeke bujaite kosto hoi akhono