The Sky Does Not Live in a Cage

Ask any girl, "Could you share the person you're with someone else?", and without a moment's hesitation, she'll answer, "I could never accept him going to someone else while I'm still here."

When I hear such an answer, I want to say, "This is precisely why men resort to lies and deception to keep the peace. If you could see the one you love not as your possession but as your treasure, your relationship would be far more beautiful. Why does the thought arise in you that you alone have exclusive claim over his body and mind? Why can't you accept men as they are, the way they are? Do you think keeping him caged in yours will make him truly yours? You don't want someone you have to share with anyone—isn't that so? Then why not learn to be alone? You can't do that either! The foundation of a relationship isn't love—it's friendship. So much about the person you love cannot be accepted, yet everything about a friend can be accepted with ease. To live is to accept.

Men cannot be devoted to one woman alone, so they're men of no character in your eyes! Then why do you desperately seek the love of such a man? Better yet, learn to live without loving anyone at all. And if you can't manage that, then stop being possessive about the person you love. The authority you claim over him—his own parents don't exercise that much. Don't give him any chance to disrespect you, but neither should you disrespect him by forcing discord and trying to change him through turmoil. Let him understand the intensity of your love for him. Even if he's drawn to a thousand other women, he will still make you the moon in his sky—if you don't behave like a typical girl. For women, love means striving to extract love even if it brings chaos; for men, love means finding peace even without receiving it in return. There are exceptions, of course... needles in haystacks.

If your beloved maintains relationships with multiple women, including you, look closely—he truly loves only one of them from the depths of his heart. Why can't you be that one? To be blunt: you cannot change anyone. At best you can make them act, make them lie, force them to hide. Some men exist who would never be drawn to another woman even if it cost them their lives. If you find such a man, consider yourself blessed. If not, then either accept the truth and seek happiness within it, or end the relationship and go elsewhere in search of peace. There is no third way beyond these. Yes, if someone truly transforms themselves, wonderful! But if they don't, then accept them as they are and stop creating discord, or decide to walk alone—either with someone new or with yourself. Create your own world, keep yourself occupied within it. Life is short—enjoy it before it's gone! Trouble only breeds more trouble."