Love and Relationships

Love and relationships are two entirely different things. A relationship can end at some point, but love never ends. Love has no death, but relationships do!

The person you love or want to have a relationship with is no longer giving you their time. Now you should accept this reality. Because if they wanted to maintain a relationship with you or stay bound in love's embrace, they wouldn't avoid you or stay away from you.

I recently met and got acquainted with a gentleman, even visited his home. His wife is fourteen years older than him. What's even more remarkable is that his wife was once his teacher! Yes, his school teacher became his wife. From there came love, from there came affection, and from there finally came marriage. And the harmony I witnessed between them, the love I saw, the bond I observed, the understanding I witnessed—it was truly wonderful! Their children are all grown up now. The eldest son has finished his bachelor's degree and is now pursuing his master's, while their daughter is studying abroad.

In relationships like this, I believe age creates no barriers. Because when two people decide to be with each other or want to stay together, the connection that forms between them is a connection between one mind and another. There should be no barriers of age, status, circumstances, or financial, familial, social, or state positions. Here, a relationship forms between one mind and another, a communication is established.

If it were the case that the person you were in a relationship with wanted to maintain that relationship or felt that spiritual bond, then they would never have stopped talking to you, never cut off communication. You should accept reality and let them be as they are. If you truly love someone, if you feel a spiritual connection with them, then your primary responsibility is to let them be exactly as they are. Your main duty is to let that person stay in their place, completely in their comfort zone.

Now, if in letting them be, it turns out they want to stay away from you and you have to accept that distance, then do so. This is your magnanimity, this is the mark of your love! You cannot force anyone to stay, no one can be held by force. Love is not an obligation. Love is a matter of the heart. Love cannot be measured by external conditions or limitations.

Also remember this: the person you love may not love you back. The person you loved may never have loved you at all, may have been acting, may have created a kind of habit! This too is possible. So if you love someone, thinking they will love you back exactly as much as you love them—you must shake off such absurd thoughts from your head, if you want to be well, if you want to live life on your own terms. This is what I believe.