How Your Worth Diminishes

 Don't make yourself overly available all the time; sometimes withdraw in such a way that they miss you. If you don't do this, they will eventually grow weary of seeing your reckless behavior. They will then consider you shameless and, without any visible reason, will inflate their own worth to the skies.
  
 Then what will happen, do you know? They will be irritated just seeing you, will want to flee even at the sight of your shadow, will take you completely for granted. They will no longer care about anything you do, thinking instead, 'There's nothing to care about here! I don't even need to call them—they come running before I even ask!' Remember, even your pet dog won't come if you don't call!
  
 Acting this way, you'll see that in a couple of days they will stop praising any of your efforts. What once delighted them when you did it, they will no longer even notice. In fact, they will be annoyed by your presence, though once they desperately wanted you near! They will often tell you that you're not letting them be themselves, that you're not letting them enjoy their life.
  
 Constantly clinging like this, they will gradually become utterly irritated with you, will be deeply annoyed just seeing you, sometimes even hurling abuse. Eventually they will start seeing you as an adversary. Forget love—their mind will become filled with irritation and hatred toward you. You will continue loving them, but watching their behavior, you won't be able to make sense of anything. You'll feel completely worthless, insignificant, negligible. You'll lose not only your self-respect but also, along with it, your very will to live.
  
 Listen, just because you love someone doesn't mean you should follow them around like a dog all the time. It's truly irritating. Everyone needs personal space to breathe. You cannot destroy that under the pretext of love. If you do, you'll see that unknowingly you're gradually becoming a psychopath and a toxic person. Who wants to be with someone like that!?
  
 You love them? Fine, but does that mean you must talk to them every single hour? Must hover around them like a shadow? Must they report to you every day? Must you harass them for your own happiness? Must you spy on their every action so pointlessly? The more you chase someone, the more they will want to run from you.
  
 Tell me yourself—someone who can be had without even wanting them; not just had, but someone who actually bothers you relentlessly—is there anything valuable about such a person? Learn to understand a little! It's not enough just to know how to love; you must understand these things too. Many know how to love well, but how many understand the dynamics?
 Listen, friend, do you truly have no other work besides circling around them? Have you really forgotten that you once had some shame and dignity? Try to remember! You once knew how to respect yourself too! You once had plenty of work to do! You were born from a human womb, and here you're growing into a dog! Does this make any sense!?
  
 If you want to stay well and keep others well, some distance is necessary. Love demands a certain distance. If you want to maintain peace, both of you should spend some time alone with yourselves. And let each other have that solitary time. If you let go, they won't flee; if you hold tight, they will. And those who are meant to leave will escape even if you chain them!
  
 If you're constantly hanging around before their eyes like that, when will they get the chance to miss you? Why are you living like such a sticky creature when you were born human? Don't irritate, don't keep in unrest, don't cause suffering. Acting that way, even your purest love will gradually become a terrible monster!