ভাবনাদেয়ালের পলেস্তারা (৬৯তি অংশ)

Reflection: Four Hundred Seventy-Seven

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2 September 2009

A young man asks a kind priest:
Father, is it a sin to sleep with a girl?…….. Father: No, my child, but the
problem is that you guys never sleep.

Should he sleep? Lol…..

if I was father my answer was may be
yes……but my mother so big no..

……. Lol.

Complex……your stock is really rich..

was that child u, Sushant?

Ahem, ahem! I wish I were.

you mean Ah Men! u wish what

I am sure you must have not slept
with a woman several times

problem happens only if both of them
sleep.

lolzzz…………won’t never let
this problem happen!

2 September 2009

They say, my smile can be compared
to a flower, my voice can be compared to a cuckoo, my innocence to a child, but
in stupidity I have no comparison. I am the best.

I’m the best! simply the best

Wow! Friends, you’ve celebrated my
superiority gorgeously! I can’t even imagine how you’ve preferred my stupidity!
I feel honoured to be the best. Many have liked it; many have even kindly also
commented on it. I’ll try my best to retain this no. 1 position. It’s a
promise.

I disagree with your last statement,
Sushant

Why? Have you found anyone more
stupid than me?

…………I change my status
message, because I believe in change. Facebook is my girlfriend. (lol) Would
you please spend some time with me for some time of the day? I do nothing for
living, rather others do many things for my living.

I agree

I do also! Because, diamond cuts
diamond.

I know that and want to make people
aware of that! I wish I had some more sagacious friends like you!

A man/woman is known by the company
he/she keeps!

3 September 2009

A bride at her second wedding does
not wear a veil. She wants to see what she is getting.

Hmm……. Marriage is a race that
shouldn’t be stopped once started. What does that mean? lolzz….

Marriage is a most sacred
bond……especially if you understand what it truly is……otherwise it’s
merely two people cohabiting…

I believe marriages often dissolve
not because two hearts yearn for each other, but simply because two individuals live together—not out of deep longing, but because they feel trapped (or find it shameful to seek alternatives). Friends! What are your thoughts on this?

Why only she…not he as well???

Certainly……it’s best if she
makes the effort! Otherwise, it becomes nothing but a wretched game of chance.

Friends! Do you believe that spouses
can psychologically mold each other?

Oh yes, absolutely…they continuously
transform each other, and in this process they change so much that eventually comes
that famous lament….”YOU’RE NO LONGER THE PERSON YOU USED TO BE”

Do you recall O. Henry’s short story
‘The Gift of the Magi’? Can’t we find more joyful couples like
Jim and Della?……. After marriage, friendship matters more than love, I believe.

I don’t think friendship is the
right word when you live together—perhaps partnership… like business partners (lol)… fewer emotions, fewer complications… lol

What could be the reason behind a
bride covering herself with her veil and a groom wearing a sehra?? It can only mean—don’t look at each other lest you call off the wedding…What do you say?

Well, I think the traditional significance
of all this is to make the day more enchanting by maintaining that veil between them for a moment, since they’re destined to be together forever afterward.

Lol……. An unjust arrangement
wrapped in fairness often meets a tragic end!…… Happy Wedding! A sweet-sounding utopia
where you can only exist after you’ve lost the very desire to live! lolz.

Ah, that’s not always true… don’t
be so pessimistic, Sushanta. I can foresee your future. When you’re nearly 45
(youth fading) you’ll feel like marrying a 25-year-old
“beautiful, sexy maiden” and you’ll do exactly that and live happily ever after.

Reaching 45…… marrying only
once? Lol…… What about never marrying at all and bringing joy to many women instead of just one? lol.

What do you mean, bringing joy to many women?
Are you bringing happiness to many through romantic pursuits… LOL 😀

One is the number you begin with…
LOL…

You can never anyone ‘HAPPY’ in
marital game! ‘True Happiness’ lies anywhere else! lol.

as you know the definition of True
Happiness… go on… share with us… make me happy today

thanx for adding few more lines

..I don’t think one has to be
unmarried to make many women happy..is happiness subjective here

Girish…… Learnt a new dimension
of happiness from you! (probably I knew it earlier, just became sure from an
experienced person. Thanks! )

……. Huh!

yes experienced man…that’s
right….still experiencing

3 September 2009

Girls are like shadow. If you run
after them, they will run away from you. If you run away from them, they will
run after you.

…… Girls act like silent
listeners, but if you can’t guess their acting, you’ll never have to look for
miseries, rather miseries will collect your address!

Hmm…… If I hadn’t submitted this
status message, I’d have not realized how seriously funny this matter actually
is. Lol. Ok, I’ve never been dumped by any girl 🙁
or, dumped anyone either! 🙁
Anyway, I should have not offended those who are good runners in this regard!
Sorry for that! (lol)……. See, one my kind friends has kindly said that I
talk too much foul. Thanks. Should an idiot talk wisely?…….. I don’t love
girls, they love me. I just can’t hurt them. Lol……… Finally, I can say
that love runs blind, so better depend on blind-dating! Hahahaha…..

Some have suggested here to stand
still. Can you ever touch you shadow? Lol……… What’s the use of passing
even your whole life just staring at a dumb shadow?……….. Again, I often
feel proud of my stupidity as in this God-gifted virtue I’m second to none!
Girls are by far, fond of idiots, as they don’t prefer any smart one who can
trace their stupidity easily!……. Hmm……. Seriousness? This seems too
heavy for me to bear!…… I can at most be a serious stupid only, not more
than that! Thanks.

Friends! Have you ever tried to
fight with your own shadow? It’s amazing! Just try it!…….. I tried it many
times and have found that this is the only strife in the world where you’ll
lose the appeal of rejoicing the victory even if you win!……… Just imagine
that you’re walking but, you’ve no shadow. Are you a human being at all it this
case?…….. One possible solution: Walk in darkness. No shadow will follow
you! No one is there whom you can chase or, who can chase you either!
Hahahaha…….

Sweet mistakes….. How can you but
make mistakes when you feel no offence but an urge in making them? lolz…..

Reflection: Four hundred seventy-eight

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3 September 2009

Son: Is God man or, woman?…
Father: Both, my son!…. Son: Black or, White?… Father: Both, my son,
both!…. Son: Papa! Is Michael Jackson God?

I’m also a fan of Michael Jackson. I
paid tribute to him after his death from my heart. Actually, I meant no offence
here. I request you to take it as a joke only. A friend has commented here that
Michael Jackson went through trials and tribulations in his life. Please, think
for a while impartially. Did he not deserve that? Anyway, I again request you
just to take it for a joke only. Thanks.

In the world, most of the jokes are
about doctors and lawyers. And we know they serve the society best. There are
nothing called good jokes or, bad jokes. Our acceptability makes it so. Thanks.

I think, it’s agreeable to be
passionate, but disgraceful to be fanatic, it often destroys our power of free
thinking. Why should we be devoid of the tolerance to take a joke only for a
joke and nothing else? If we eliminate the dark side of a matter, can we
analyze it comprehensively at all? I again request my friends not to mean any
offence for that joke. Thanks.

Thanks for your comments. If I
didn’t post this status message, I’d never come to how awfully fanatic men
could be about a simple joke even unnecessarily drawing the context of
God…….. I’d like to put a simple request before you: For God’s sake, spare
God!

Thanks.

3 September 2009

What type of person do you prefer
most? Conservative? or, Liberal?

I think, a person is exactly what
or, how he/she thinks. Most people who claim to be conservative, are outwardly
superficial in case of acting like that, but inwardly their heart yearns for a
liberal perspective. I found many people conservative in manner, liberal in
thought. Sometimes Oriental societies make us pretend to be conservative, but
we can never take this from heart. Habits also demand mentioning in reforming a
person’s attitude towards the way of life. Am I right?

We guys are by far hypocrites in our
attitude. We dare not express what we feel, rather express a fake concocted
artificial manner. Now my question is: How should we behave? As we are, or, as
we had to be? Observation of self-denying customs or, so-called rules often
spoil our power of thinking freely. In case of literature, masterpieces also
come out only from spontaneous thoughts not from fabricated indoctrinated
beliefs. Friends! Do you agree with me?

Sushanta Paul I’d like to
add…….. Values blended with aesthetic flavour!

3 September 2009

Friends! For God’s sake, hold your
tongue and let me love!

Again, there are some views we feel
like sharing but society can’t accept the urge hyperactively.

When the crescent moon of the fifth day has drowned, it yearned to die…….. (I too have such longing! Will anyone come with me?)

The evening star departed long ago! I wait for when the night-birds will come and sing their songs! O night, won’t you linger a little longer! O beloved, with the signal of your dark eyes, tell the clouds to move away, let the silver moonlight come and wash your chin!

………… No leisure, you say,
friend? There is never leisure—one must create it.

4 September 2009

Sometimes thinking of you makes everything feel scattered……..sometimes who draws other pictures in your eyes…… I cannot understand your heart at all,
so familiar,
yet why does it feel so strange?

Translation: Sometimes I feel like
acting crazy when you peep through my heart…… Then I even fail to ponder
over your portrait….. Your mind seems enigmatic to me…… When I feel like
losing you into oblivion, I also lose myself!

The very breath in which you are mingled, when that too vanishes, what remains of me then, tell me? Then silence’s foot soldiers come and surround me. I disappear, but cannot escape.

4 September 2009

Like first love, first poetry comes and says……..take my hand and come,
to unknown distant lands……

Translation: Like my first love, my
first poetry yearns to me to escort it to the distant fairyland with a blend of
imagination.

The path unknown—today I shall walk upon that path!

4 September 2009

About which matters do people feel
shy, or pretend to feel shy?

Hmm… I don’t think that the world
is full of genuine (!) shy persons, rather it is full of persons who like to
pretend to be shy for some reasons!

If you feel shy anymore, I swear
I’ll feel shy from my heart! Hehehe

You shy guy are leaving us. I’m
happy as a competitor of mine to be shameless is leaving! I’m the best
shameless. lolz

Yea! I was awaiting this vital
point. So true. More obvious in case of illegal sex.

Sushanta, I wonder if you go to
school……..you’re on FB all day, I think.

4 September 2009

Consequences of American life style:
The wife rushed into the house screaming to her husband, Darling, come quick!
your kids and my kids are beating our kids!

I know it is only a joke, but it
does not change the fact that such jokes create misunderstandings that lead to
prejudiced thinking!

How would you feel if the joke were
instead about unhappy arranged marriages, or honour killings due to a love
marriage? Answer that honestly!

That would be a disgrace! Honour
killing is largely biased by the intelligibility and acceptance from personal
and familial perspective. Unhappy arranged marriages can also undergo this
tribulation of life. It depends on how and to what extent we accept or, deny a
fact whatsoever agreeable may it be or not. Some sorts of neuro-psychological
motivation can contribute here. Thanks. @Renee.

Reflection: Four Hundred and Eighty-Nine

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4 September 2009

If you love someone but he/she
doesn’t care you or your feelings, should you still yearn for his/her sympathy?

Nice comments. Friends! Now my
question is, if you love someone truly but he/she refuses you and hasn’t the
least feeling of love for you, should you still cling to your decision and vex
him/her continuously and try make him/her understand he/must love you?

Friends! Did you notice that an
interesting matter happened! Many of you have mentioned here only about girls.
Do boys vex girls only? You can’t even imagine how disgusting girls could be!
They can be crazy beyond your imagination. It’s true. I can tell it for sure!

Sushanta! you should say” few
girls”……and remember you got what you gave once.

Friends! I’d like share an idea with
you. If anyone leaves you, just wait. He/ She will come back to you if he/she
was yours. If he/she does not, he/she was never yours. Do your support or
believe this?

Love always finds its course itself.
No matter how we instigate through its perspective. Now, what’s the use of
one-sided love? Is it not a pity for oneself? Does it not demolish one’s
personality? I think, notwithstanding love’s spontaneous flow, we should never
deny the urge to uplift our self-dignity and yield to the persons who don’t
even care us. Do you agree with me?

Ok. I’m rather replacing the word
‘disgusting’ with the word ‘displeasing’. Hope now my previous statement bears
no offensive notion. Thanks for the warning. @Sanjiv.

……………If anyone falls in
love, he usually loses the power of thinking independently and judging
something shrewdly so as to avoid a possible disaster. What’s the use of
continuing loving a person without telling him/her that plainly? That’s
probably plainly liking, not love!

love defies reasons reasonably!

The greatest thing you will ever
learn is just to love and be loved in return (from nature boy) – if you love
someone, you can never seek for sympathy, only love is desired in return!

If that doesn’t happen, that
shouldn’t stop that love, but of course the typical love affair is not expected
when it’s one sided – defo sympathy is not appropriate at all in case of
love… but I know where seeking sympathy can occur. Sometimes people become
obsessed about another person (that’s not love, obsession) but they think that
is, in that case when they found out that they won’t be loved in return, then
they seek sympathy… but it wasn’t love at the first place!

….. Obsession, not love! Good point,
I admit!

4 September 2009

To love is to suffer. To avoid
suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Friends!
Then, what may be the possible solution to avoid suffering?

“ভালোবাসা মানেই কষ্ট পাওয়া। কষ্ট এড়াতে হলে ভালোবাসা যাবে না। কিন্তু তাহলে ভালোবাসা না পাওয়ার কষ্ট হয়। সুতরাং ভালোবাসা মানে কষ্ট, না ভালোবাসা মানেও কষ্ট। কষ্ট মানে কষ্ট। খুশি থাকা মানে ভালোবাসা। তাহলে খুশি থাকা মানেই কষ্ট। কিন্তু কষ্ট আমাদের অসুখী করে। সুতরাং অসুখী হতে হলে ভালোবাসতে হবে, বা কষ্টকে ভালোবাসতে হবে, বা অতিরিক্ত সুখে কষ্ট পেতে হবে। আশা করি এসব তুমি টুকে রাখছ।” – উডি অ্যালেন, ভালোবাসা ও মৃত্যু।

এবার আমার একটা কথা বলতে ইচ্ছে করছে। একতরফা ভালোবাসা কি গ্রহণযোগ্য? কেন তুমি এমন যন্ত্রণা সহ্য করবে যা একান্তই তোমার নয়? ঈর্ষার যন্ত্রণা? হুম। এটা কি পুরোপুরি ব্যক্তিগত নয়? এটা মেনে নেওয়া উচিত? প্রেমে যন্ত্রণা স্বাভাবিক। কিন্তু অযৌক্তিক কষ্টের মানেই বা কী? তুমি হয়তো কোনো দাবি-দাওয়া আর প্রত্যাশা ছাড়াই ভালোবাসতে থাকবে, কিন্তু বলো তো এর গতিপথ কী? শেষ পর্যন্ত কি এটা শুধু তোমার একাই থেকে যায় না, পারস্পরিক বোঝাপড়া যাই থাক?

আমি কোনো ইউটোপীয় পরিকল্পনা নিয়ে কখনো চেতনাহীনতায় ভুগি না।

প্রেমের ক্ষেত্রে ‘প্রতারণা’ শব্দটার সংজ্ঞা আমরা কি কোনোদিন দিতে পারি? এটা কি একটা পক্ষপাতদুষ্ট ধারণা নয়?

যা তাদের কাছে অপ্রাসঙ্গিক হতে পারে, এমন সব কথা শোনানোর জন্য মানুষদের জোর করার দরকার নেই। আমি জানি বেশিরভাগ মানুষ কেমন, কিন্তু নিজের সাথে সৎ থাকাটা খুবই গুরুত্বপূর্ণ। এই পর্যায়ে পৌঁছাতে খুব শক্তিশালী ব্যক্তিত্বের প্রয়োজন আর খুব কম মানুষেরই এই গুণ আছে, তবে সংখ্যাটা একেবারে শূন্য নয় মোটেই।

আরও মনে হয়, তুমি যদি সত্যিকারের শক্তিশালী ব্যক্তিত্বের অধিকারী হও আর কারো সাথে সত্যিকারের ভালোবাসায় থাকো, তাহলে কখনো মিথ্যে বলার দরকার হয় না – প্রতারণা আসে যখন ভালোবাসা মরে যায়।

হুম। মনে হচ্ছে তোমরা ‘প্রতারণা’র সাথে ‘ছেড়ে দেওয়া’কে গুলিয়ে ফেলেছ! লোল…

ছেড়ে দেওয়া প্রতারণার চেয়ে ভালো! শুনতে স্বাস্থ্যকর লাগছে! চাও? লোলজ…….

আসলে, এটা প্রায়ই ব্যতিক্রমের চেয়ে নিয়মই বেশি…আর আমি আবার বলছি, প্রতারণা মানে প্রচলিত অর্থে বিশ্বাসভঙ্গ নয়

চমৎকার কথা! “প্রতারণা মানে বিশ্বাসভঙ্গ নয়”

আমি দৃঢ়ভাবে এটা বিশ্বাস করি শুশান্ত……..যদি সব দম্পতি এটা বুঝতো, তাহলে সব সম্পর্কে আরও নিরাপত্তা আর ভালোবাসা থাকতো

বাস্তব জগতে প্রাচ্যের সমাজে বিয়ে প্রায়ই ভেঙে যায় ‘বিয়ের আগে প্রতারিত হওয়া বা প্রতারণা করার’ কারণে, বিশ্বস্ততা থাকা সত্ত্বেও।

৫ সেপ্টেম্বর ২০০৯

আজকাল মনে হয় বেশিরভাগ ছবি এমন যেগুলো শুধু জেলখানা আর বিমানে দেখানো উচিত, কারণ সেখানে কেউ পালাতে পারে না। বন্ধুরা! একমত? নাকি দ্বিমত?

Movies are supposed to follow the
aspects of our life, but when our life borrows the elements from the movies
instead, then movies become fabricated so far away from the vision of life. Can
you suggest any other better option for ‘Life is Beautiful’, The Bicycle
Thief’, ‘Pother Panchali’ or, many other classics like that that directly
illustrate the portrait of our real life? I think, these day most commercial
movies are made presenting some stereotypes that we might have fancy to be, but
the fact is, we remain where we were, just the colors of whim enthrall us for
the time being. We dream of marrying (or, something like that!) Aishwariya or,
Katrina but miserably just can read a huge stuff about their marriage! 🙁
Sometimes it so happens that we confuse the Western and Oriental life-style and
try to contradict the surroundings where we have been grown up. This confusion
never goes unpunished.

Again, some people think that all
classics should not be approved for some censorial reasons. They classify some
movies as disapproving. Should such a prejudiced segregation be imposed in case
of classifying movies?

5 September 2009

Love is the only truth that rules
reasonably without any reason.

I’ve not yet told those best words I
can tell you, haven’t sung the loveliest song you wanted to listen!

An untouched heart is the loveliest
flower yet to bloom.

6 September 2009

People never salute you; they just
salute your position. What’s the use of you but for your position?

Here I’ve referred to any type of
social, familial and personal status that is gained by our talent, contribution
or, even with money. I severely disdain the bureaucratic show-down as they
actually enjoy the power of their position and have no right to abuse it.

I’ve no antipathy for them. I just
object to the attitude they tend to show. (No offence meant)

What’s the use of a position without
that?

Thought: Four Hundred and Eighty

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6 September 2009

In most cases, handsome boys aren’t
married to lovely girls and lovely girls aren’t married to handsome boys.
Friends! Is this tragic paradox true? or, not?

When I attend in affair-marriage
parties, I often recall that love is blind!

Again in case of arranged marriage,
I also often find unwarrantable mismatch that is never agreeable. I personally
can never approve this type of marriage.

Not always destroys, nevertheless
this type of marriage shouldn’t be approved, should it?

Hmm…… Handsome guys and lovely
gals can make a social campaign against this injustice of God. Who are with me?
lolz……

6 September 2009

Friends! Which is the best ornament
of a man: Beauty? Brain? Money? Status? or, Anything else?

Beauty is only skin-deep. Brain
often fails to attract firstly without beauty. Money is the second God. Status
gives us a position that is often fake or, biased. Again, personality is hardly
gained without brain and money. Hmm……. Now, what about being a such stupid
who cannot even understand that nobody is caring about him/her? Lol. Ignorance
is bliss!

Brain, money, position would be
ornament of one’s when one know how to utilize those.

So, better to be an idiot. No
tension of utilizing any inner faculty!

What about self-confidence……the
magic that lies within us?

Very few people can tell about ones
self-confidence with courageous, coz confidence is a very both hard and heavy
word. But it’s the most important also.

I differ. I think self-confidence is
a psychological matter which can be attained only when you think you’ve
attained otherwise not. Thanks.

Sorry to say that I’ve failed to
make the sense clear. I just want to tell that self-confidence is a psychological
faculty. If you think you’re self-confident, then you’re self-confident and
it’s the secret of success. Thanks.

Is there anything called fate and
Almighty? We get reward of what we do and deserve………… A person can
never fail, he can just be delayed in reaching his/her goal….

if you believe that you have no
self-confidence, it’s true. if you believe you have that, it’s also true

Money holds the supreme power that
can pervade all others virtues materially, yet many points remain unanswered.

Getting a blend of all the
above-mentioned virtues is next to impossible.

Hmm….. For attracting a woman
physically, a robust physical set-up is essential. But anyone can build up it
easily.

But, personality never builds up
harmonically without brain, money and vision. Or, it can be surely said that
personality without those treasures has little value as it fails to attract
others’ attention.

7 September 2009

Friends! Which is the best novel you
have ever read?

For a thousand years

very difficult to name one…….but
yes, Atlas shrugged, Fountain head, We the people and Anthem.

Life!

Would have to be atlas shrugged,
fountain head and on the opposite end of the spectrum, bridges of Madison
county………All so intense in their varied emotions.

War And Peace

All quiet on the western front.

First Light

Catch 22

Epitaph, Telescope, Pather Panchali

My favorite novel is ‘Chander Pahar.’
Mother used to read it to us when we were young, and we three siblings would listen in rapt attention. I’ve read it many times since. Each time it felt as though I was discovering the novel anew. When I grew up and studied Bengali literature for my master’s degree, I loved Aranyak very much. Even so, ‘Chander Pahar’ remains the finest novel I’ve ever read.

The Good Earth

Its real hard 2 name just 1!
impossible 4 me. The Poet, the outsider, Mother, Padma Nadir Majhi, Bishabriksha,
That Time,
Moonlight and
Mother’s Story,
A Weak Man, Glass Sea

The Burning Pyre,
The Characterless, The Chronicles of Puppet Play

Will just name a few- as I
remember……The One (Richard Bach)-it’s my fav, Secret Garden, Jane Eyre, Gone
with the wind, War and Peace, The Hunchback of Notredame ( I cried reading
this), The Citadel, Ayn Rand’s The Fountainhead (a very unique character-
Howard Roark) and We The Living, Animal Farm (hilarious as well, lol),
Dracula(lol)no I mean it.., Around the world in 80 days (ooph, the
determination and perseverance of Mr.Fogg)..Pride and Prejudice, Harry Potter all
series…..Narnia series……Outer Banks by Ann Rivers Siddons..the list will
go on as I think more.so better stop here.

Midday

the fountainhead, les miserables

the Holes

Storm Signals,
Godfather, First Light

Harry Potter…………

Sivaji Roy Alchemist

can’t say only one – there are so
many – but from recent reading The first and the Last men (Olaf Stapledon),
Hitchhiker’s guide to the galaxy (Douglas Adams), most of Pushkin’s novels

the kite runner, thorn birds, 75
park avenue

The old man & the sea, Three
comrades and A farewell to arms, The adventures of Tom Saywer and Huckleberry
Fin, La miserable, The da vinci code, Godfather.

Dear Friends! I’m very happy to find
some book-maniacs like me. Now it’s my turn. Too many to mention…. Anyway,
some of them are:

Animal farm, Crime & punishment,
Gone with the wind, Lord of flies, Love Story, Mother, One hundred years of
solitude, Pride & prejudice, Sons & lovers, The da vinci code, The old
man and the sea, The Picture of Dorian Gray, Ulysses, War & peace, Withering
Heights, Huckleberry Finn, Brick Lane, The kite runner, Les Miserables, Gora, The Unvanquished, The Characterless,
The Poet, First Light…….
and many others

From the Volga to the Ganges, Fifty-six Thousand Square Miles,
Shubhobrata and
The Good News Thereof,
First Light,
That Time,
The Chaprassi

Freedom at Midnight

East of Eden- Steinbeck, all books
written by Enid Bylton, Nancy Drew’s, Alchemist, Fountainhead- Ayn Rand, Essays
-B.Russel, Da Vinci Code- Dan Brown, all books written by Judith Mcnaught, R.l
Stevenson, The Prophet– Khalil Gibran, Kite Runner, Pride and Prejudice,
Withering Heights…Twilight Series, all of Sidney Sheldon, Jeffery Archer,
Mills and Boon, few of Danielle Steel……….

If you like real life stories about
read Infectious Greed: How Deceit and Risk Corrupted the Financial Markets it
is about the fin scams.

8 September 2009

When I find none worthy of talking,
I rather like talking to myself because I like talking to better class of
people.

Better to dream than to start losing
it!

While talking to myself I never
bother about that. Nothing great comes out deliberately!

Better class involves the class I
talk to. (Friends! I’m now talking to you! )

Reflection: Four Hundred Eighty-One

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8 September 2009

Formal education contributes little
to attitude-building. Friends! Agree? or, Disagree?

I think in attitude-building,
self-education or, self-cognizance is also an important factor.

I often recall a line…….one of
my most favourites…….. ‘I was born genius, education ruined me!’

Actually, the more I think about the
utility of formal education to become a complete man, the more its
insignificance appears before me.

I think, most of the greenhorns of
the country who are leading us to a disaster are just academically educated,
but are illiterate in the truest sense. Companies want to see the academic
background of the candidates. But does it play any role in overall performance
at all?

Attitude is, to me, a commonsense about how to think, what to think and scrutinize through the persons around us and this is very uncommon for the common people. Most of us ignore it, as we’re afraid of the change. Education makes us more or less conservative, we need to cast a further glance on the truth of life.

The true course of education must involve the enlightenment of the individuals, not only a means to attain a certificate to avail a so-called prestigious job. As long as getting a job not becomes the by-product of formal education, this crisis will remain the same.

But our biased moral or, religious education often spoils the psychological spontaneity and we become slave to some traditional ethics.

Well…education helps in confidence to large degree…lets acknowledge that knowing to speak, read and write a language helps and as I have mentioned parental support goes a long way…reading books inculcates knowledge and that helps in confidence…the key to me is confidence and good self-esteem goes a long way

Nice interpretation, indeed! Our social maladies often take a serious shape as psychologically untrained, uneducated or, semi-educated persons hold the positions where they’re not supposed to be.

Well Sushanta all of us are mad to some degree!! and psychological problems can affect even after holding office after some time…we are talking two different things here…but if we are talking about people holding higher offices then I guess the blame lies squarely on people who are educated and in all respects smart enough to know the Quality of people they have helped to attain such offices

Anyway, just to summarize……formal education equips you with a tool and moral education governs the brain control room….how to use this tool.

……. Human Bondage is largely biased and indoctrinated. Our childhood indoctrination often deteriorates our power of free-thinking. Idealism is yet to universally defined and even defined requires further redefinition. It’s never a standard or, ideal idea.

Moral education helps you so far as you use this tool morally, I’d add, with a commonsense being free from the influence of traditionalism.

Good reading….. One of the notions that suffers from utilitarian view and has thousands of dimensional aspects to be argued.

Another pivotal factor works here which is enthusiasm to retain performance.

Our performance is improved when we
like what we perform. We can do everything for our beloved as we’re in love.
Similar is the case in between performance and vision. Sometimes formal
education retards our psychological growth when we learn what we don’t like.
Think of an indoctrinated family, where parents want their son/daughter to be a
doctor/engineer whereas that son/daughter has a passion for literature. The
result is fatal and obvious. The inner faculties and aptitude meet a premature
death.

This is another story
altogether…lets stick to Attitude and education…

Oh! Sorry! Actually, this is the
story of my life. I just couldn’t resist the urge. Ok leave it!

Human mind receives what it gets
spontaneously. The surroundings can so, contribute in this respect. But, what
about the persons with a praise-worthy attitude but born of a very humble
origin?

besides the two major components,
highlighted by most, formal education, and moral values…..there is a third
mandatory aspect too………….general awareness and your conduct, your ability
to hold a conversation, to interact, to exchange views, to accept things, to
make others believe u, and art of inter and intrapersonal
realtionship………….IQ is passed, EQ and MQ is the in thing

So true. And, I firmly believe this
aspect always pays much more than formal education.

The influence exerted by formal
education often instigates conservatism.

Good Morning. Formal education often
binds us in some circles from which we hardly dare escape.

And this is called proper attitude
shown when it is supposed to.

8 September 2009

……..enjoying the sound of
darkness. Friends! Good Night!

9 September 2009

A conservative is the person who
doesn’t want to do anything for the first time.

A conservative person conserve what
his/her forefathers used to conserve. A liberal person conserves something
which worth-conserving to him/her.

A DIEHARD conservative never take
initiative, including active participation in Facebook

Then we can presume that all
Facebook users are liberal! Lol.

Let the heart not ache when it isn’t
supposed to ache, let’s explore in quest of truth.

But, conservatives aren’t
conservative while marrying for the first time. Lol.

9 September 2009

Friends! Which is the best option
for passing time? Boyfriend/ Girlfriend? or, Facebook? or, Alone? or, Anything
else?

When I’m alone, the person inside me starts chatting with me. So, I can never be all alone….. Music is a cool option, but it works better while chatting with myself! ….. Friends, books, movies are cooler…. But the coolest is……. WHAT???………. Friends! Can you suggest any other?

Roam Around…

Lonely or with someone?

I’d say….some good music or maybe a walk in the wild!!!

Lost in wilderness!

Books, books & books.

Hmm…… What about reciting poetries walking by the riverside?

But, nowadays I’m discovering Facebook as my constant girlfriend!

Boy friend/ Girl Friend = 1/2, Facebook = Uncountable friends, Alone = You and your soul, Anything else = Maybe something maybe nothing.

Reflection: Four Hundred Eighty-Two

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10 September 2009

Things are that they are and things will be that they will be.

Our thoughts can only give things another concrete shape.

Our feelings flow spontaneously as they are supposed to. There is hardly any coincidence. We usually take those incidents for coincidences which are not supposed to occur at that moment in our view or, judgement or, even intelligibility.

Right! And these occurrences of coincidences whose probability is least likely, make us orthodox. And we start relating them with past acts, for their recurrence in future on similar lines.

And then some fertile (!) brains start making suicidal superstitions.

Our thoughts even do not truly belong to us, they come via the ether & we choose right or wrong, to act on them!

Feelings are important to observe! They are our guidance mechanism!

আমি কোথাও গিয়ে শেষ করতে চাই না…. কিন্তু চিন্তার সুতোটা একটু টানতে গিয়ে আরও কিছুদূর এগোই। জ্যোতির্বিজ্ঞানের যে তিনটি স্থানাঙ্কের ওপর সব কিছু দাঁড়িয়ে আছে, তার বিপরীতে একটি চতুর্থ স্থানাঙ্ক আছে যার নাম ‘কাল’, যা প্রচার করেছেন আর কেউ নন, সর্বকালের মহান বিজ্ঞানী আইনস্টাইন। রেনের পটভূমি আমি জানি না কিন্তু সুশান্ত হয়তো আলবার্টের বিখ্যাত আপেক্ষিকতাবাদ সম্পর্কে অবগত। এই তত্ত্ব অনুযায়ী যদি কোনো পদার্থকণা আলোর বেগে চলে, তাহলে কাল-ফ্যাক্টর হয়ে দাঁড়ায় ‘০’; আর যদি আলোর চেয়ে দ্রুত হয়, তবে ‘কাল’ হয়ে যায় ঋণাত্মক। আর এইটাই হলো জ্যোতিষশাস্ত্র…..ভবিষ্যতের ‘কাল’ ফ্যাক্টরের গোপন রহস্য কী তা জানা। আলবার্টের এই তত্ত্বের ওপর কম করে হলেও লক্ষো মানুষ পিএইচডি করেছে, পক্ষে অথবা বিপক্ষে, প্রমাণ বা খণ্ডনের জন্য…. কাল ঋণাত্মক হওয়া মানে, আজ যাত্রা শুরু করলে আমরা গতকালই পৌঁছে গিয়েছিলাম। আমরা জানি এতে কোনো মানে নেই। কিন্তু যা কিছু অতিপ্রাকৃত তা যখন প্রমাণিত যুক্তির মাধ্যমে প্রতিষ্ঠিত হয়, তখন তা প্রাকৃতিক হয়ে ওঠে। আমি ‘কুসংস্কার’-এর পক্ষে সওয়াল করতে চাই না, শুধু একটা ভাবনা

সুন্দর ব্যাখ্যা! আমি যোগ করতে চাই…………….আমরা সাধারণত প্রবল তাড়নার বশে কাজ করি এবং আমাদের তাড়না আমাদের কিছু সাধারণ তত্ত্বের দিকে প্ররোচিত করে যা বেশিরভাগই আমাদের পূর্ব অভিজ্ঞতা থেকে উৎসারিত। তাই আমরা সাধারণত আমাদের পরম্পরাবাদের বাইরে যেতে সাহস পাই না। কিন্তু জীবন-পথে যদি আমাদের একটি স্বাধীন দৃষ্টিভঙ্গি থাকে এবং স্বনির্মিত পথে অন্বেষণ করতে পারি, তাহলে জীবনের প্রকৃত সত্য খুঁজে পাওয়া যায়। এক্ষেত্রে নিজের আত্মার প্রভু হওয়া অবশ্যই প্রয়োজন। নচেৎ আমরা করুণভাবে গোঁড়া চিন্তার দাস হয়ে যাই।

বর্তমানের ঈশ্বরভিত্তিক ধর্মগুলো ব্যাপকভাবে পক্ষপাতদুষ্ট! ঈশ্বর/ধর্মের জন্য ধর্মের পরিবর্তে মানুষের জন্য ধর্ম গ্রহণের তাড়না গড়ে তুলি।

যদি তুমি ভালো যুক্তির মন রাখো, তাহলে স্বতঃস্ফূর্ততা নিজেই আধ্যাত্মিকতার স্থান দখল করে নেয়। অতিরিক্ত উপলব্ধির প্রয়োজন নেই, শুধু তোমার মনকে তোমার ষষ্ঠ ইন্দ্রিয়ের আদেশ মানতে বলো, পৃথিবী যা ইচ্ছে বলুক।

আমাদের অন্তর্নিহিত ক্ষমতাগুলো লালন করে, স্বপ্রেরণায় এবং ভালো যুক্তির দ্বারা।

আর মানুষ প্রায়ই তাদের দ্বারা শিকার হওয়ার জন্য অপেক্ষা করে কারণ মানুষ জীবনের সত্য অনুসন্ধানে কষ্ট নিতে চায়। তথাকথিত প্রচারকরা মানুষকে বিভ্রান্ত করে যারা প্রায়ই স্বেচ্ছায় সেই ভণ্ডদের নির্ধারিত ভাগ্যের কাছে নতি স্বীকার করে। এ ক্ষেত্রে ফাঁদে না পড়ার জন্য আমাদের মনের শক্তিকে পুনরুজ্জীবিত করা অবশ্যই প্রয়োজন। আমরা আসলে তাই যা আমরা ভাবি এবং সে অনুযায়ী পরিবেশের সাথে প্রতিক্রিয়া করি। আমাদের মন বা মস্তিষ্কই এখানে নিয়ন্ত্রণকক্ষ।

অভিজ্ঞতা এমন একটি বিষয় যা ব্যক্তি থেকে ব্যক্তিতে ব্যাপকভাবে পরিবর্তিত হয় এবং এটি একজন মানুষের জ্ঞানের উপর ভিত্তি করে। গ্রহণযোগ্যতার মাত্রা সবার জন্য ভারসাম্যের অবস্থায় থাকে না এবং এই বিষয়ে কোনো মানসম্মত লেবেলিং বোঝানো হয় না। ভালো বা মন্দ সম্পূর্ণভাবে পক্ষপাতদুষ্ট তার উপর ভিত্তি করে যে আমাদের মানসিক গঠন অনুযায়ী আমরা কীভাবে বা কী একটি ঘটনার প্রতি সাড়া দিই। আমি যদি আধ্যাত্মিকতা নিয়ে চিন্তা না করি এবং আমার কাজে ও মনোভাবে সঠিক অবস্থানে থাকি, তাহলে আধ্যাত্মিক দিকটির কী প্রয়োজন?

১০ সেপ্টেম্বর ২০০৯

বন্ধুরা! পাপের সবচেয়ে মধুর স্বাদ কী এবং আপনি তা করেন যদিও আপনি জানেন এটি ভুল?

ভাবনা: চারশো তিরাশি

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১১ সেপ্টেম্বর ২০০৯

পুরুষ প্রস্তাব করে, নারী নাকচ করে!

ঈশ্বর প্রথমে আদমকে সৃষ্টি করলেন। কেন? এটি কি বৈষম্যমূলক কাজ ছিল?……. হুমম… না…… তিনি পরে ইভকে সৃষ্টি করলেন কারণ তিনি কোনো পরামর্শ চাননি! তাই না?

ধন্যবাদ, বন্ধুরা, আপনাদের চমৎকার মন্তব্যের জন্য……….. হুমম…….. রসিকতা আজকাল গুরুতর রূপ নিচ্ছে; এটা নিজেই একটা ভালো রসিকতা…. হয়তো এটা সত্যিকারের রসিকতা নয়, তাহলে আমি অবশ্যই বলব যে আমি যা বলেছি তা সত্যি! হেহেহেহে…….. আমি মনে করি নারীরা ভাগ্যবান এই কারণে নয় যে তারা নারী, বরং এই কারণে যে তাদের নারীদের বিয়ে করতে হয় না……. আমি কখনোই ফেসবুককে একটি কর্মশালা বানাতে চাই না, যদি হয়ে যায়, তা নিছক কাকতালীয়! লোল……. হুমম…. নারীরা পুরুষদের অনেক দুঃখ কাটিয়ে উঠতে সাহায্য করে, আমি স্বীকার করি; একই সাথে, আমি এটাও স্বীকার করি যে সেই দুঃখগুলোর বেশিরভাগই উদ্ভব হতো না যদি নারীরা এর সাথে জড়িত না হতো!……. নারী সৃষ্টি করা ছিল ঈশ্বরের দ্বিতীয় ভুল, প্রথমটি সম্ভবত ঈশ্বরের কাছেই স্ব-বিরোধী ছিল (প্রথমটির জন্য ঈশ্বরকে ধন্যবাদ! লোল)……..

পুরুষও এর কৃতিত্ব ভাগ করে নেয়!

নিশ্চয়…দুর্ভাগ্যবশত নারীই সন্তান ৯ মাস পেটে রাখে…এবং সন্তান জন্মদানের প্রক্রিয়ার মধ্য দিয়ে যায়……নাকি আপনি এটাও তর্ক করবেন?

না, আমি করব না। ঈশ্বর পুরুষকে সেই দায়িত্ব দেননি!

প্রস্তাব করা বা নাকচ করা একই মুদ্রার দুই পিঠ। এটা আপনার উপর নির্ভর করে আপনি এটাকে কীভাবে অর্থ করেন এবং বিষয়টি বিচার করতে চান। যখন একটি দৃষ্টিভঙ্গি দুই বিপরীত দিক থেকে দেখা হয় তখন এটি একটি গোষ্ঠীর কাছে অস্বাভাবিক মনে হতে পারে। একটি প্রস্তাব বিচারের জন্য সঠিক চেতনা কি সবসময় দায়ী থাকতে পারে? আমি মনে করি এখানে মূল বিষয় হলো বোধগম্যতা। ধন্যবাদ।

১১ সেপ্টেম্বর ২০০৯

বন্ধুরা! আপনি যদি কোনো ব্যক্তিকে ভালোবাসেন, তার মানে কি এই যে সে/সেও আপনাকে ভালোবাসবে? একতরফা ভালোবাসা কি আপনার দৃষ্টিতে গ্রহণযোগ্য?

Friends! Some desperate followers
(!) of one-sided love often turns the feeling of love to a painful experience.
They just adhere to the persons they love like ‘super glue’ and never seem to
bother about those persons’ feeling. Is this attitude wholesome at all?

Hmm……. I’ve heard of a famous
poet who even wrote a classic epic after being refused!

Huh! I’m not young enough to flirt
for just enjoyment. I know what is being dumped, but not from a first-hand
experience, honestly. Lol…… This is because probably I never believe in
just merry-making in the guise of love.

The main problem of one-sided
feelings is that we often have no control over the way we approach to the evils
involved in it and ultimately, we dive.

yes define love Sushanta – love just
happens, you don’t have control on it anyways, why do you worry about being out
of control or whatever, just let yourself go a bit and express yourself if you
couldn’t say it to her yet.

……. I’m here telling mostly
about Platonic love. If love finds its destination in love only is it not
disappointing? I never care about such type of love….. Well, to attain
unconditional love from someone, you must fulfil some conditions
firstly…….. Finally, I can suggest you to rise in love also, just not to
fall in it.

…….. To me love is, not a
collection of transitory dreams given over false hearts and broken vows, rather
a miraculous treasure whose images are kept in soul not by memory alone.

…… God loves only those who make
Him do so. What about the atheists?

Love can never be equal………does
it mean one-sided love? It means only bondage of love stronger in one side than
the other side.

what abt when a girl & a boy
likes each other…& be together as a couple…& one day girl says that
she loves the boy..& the boy refuses, that he doesn’t…then can you
imagine the pathetic situation of that girl…!?!then what the girl should
do…& how a guy can do something like that!!!???

Shame upon that spineless boy. Here
a point must also be noted that the girl’s emotion was turned to stupidity.
But, after all, the boy must be put to condemn in this case.

Actually, this is not love, rather a
kind of deception. The instincts which work here are not derived from love but
from Freudian instinct.

Similar is the story of thousands of
couples throughout the world through ages. And, sometimes deception is
associated with such cases. Tragic love stories often end up before the
starting, you know!

Sushanta Paul·Friday, April 5, 2019·29 minutes

Reflection: Four Hundred Seventy-Seven

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2 September 2009

A young man asks a kind priest:
Father, is it a sin to sleep with a girl?…….. Father: No, my child, but the
problem is that you guys never sleep.

Should he sleep? Lol…..

if I was father my answer was may be
yes……but my mother so big no..

……. Lol.

Complex……your stock is really rich..

was that child u, Sushant?

Ahem, ahem! I wish I were.

you mean Ah Men! u wish what

I am sure you must have not slept
with a woman several times

problem happens only if both of them
sleep.

lolzzz…………won’t never let
this problem happen!

2 September 2009

They say, my smile can be compared
to a flower, my voice can be compared to a cuckoo, my innocence to a child, but
in stupidity I have no comparison. I am the best.

I’m the best! simply the best

I disagree with your last statement,
Sushant

Why? Have you found anyone more
stupid than me?

…………I change my status
message, because I believe in change. Facebook is my girlfriend. (lol) Would
you please spend some time with me for some time of the day? I do nothing for living,
rather others do many things for my living.

I agree

I do also! Because, diamond cuts
diamond.

I know that and want to make people
aware of that! I wish I had some more sagacious friends like you!

A man/woman is known by the company
he/she keeps!

3 September 2009

A bride at her second wedding does
not wear a veil. She wants to see what she is getting.

Hmm……. Marriage is a race,
shouldn’t be stopped once. Meaning that? lolzz….

marriage is very pious
relationship……especially if you know wat it actually is……otherwise it’s
just two ppl living together…

I think, marriages often break up
only because two persons live together not because their heart yearn for each
other, just because they feel they have no other option (or find it
embarrassing going for another option). Friends! What do you think about that?

why only she…not he also???

For sure……the best, if she
tries! Otherwise, it would be miserably a ‘luck game’.

Friends! Do you think that spouses
can train each other psychologically?

oh yes sure…they keep on changing
each other throughout & in this process they are so changed & then
comes this famous line….”YOU’RE NOT THE SAME AS BEFORE”

Can you remember the short story
‘The Gift of the Magi’ by O’ Henry? Can’t we get some more happy couples like
Jim & Della?……. After marriage friendship is required more than love, I
think.

don’t think friendship is the
appropriate word when you live together, may be partner… be professional like
a business partner (lol)… less emotion less trouble… lol

What can be the reason behind a
bride draping the pallu and a groom wearing a sehra?? ..it can only mean that
don’t see each other lest they call of the wedding…What say?

well I think the traditional meaning
of all these is to make the day more interesting putting the curtain between
them for a bit, as they meant to be together forever afterwards.

Lol……. An unfair dealing in a
fair way often meets a tragic end!…… Happy Wedding! A sweet-sounding Utopia
where you can but live after you’ve lost the appeal of living! lolz.

ahh that’s not always true… don’t
be so negative Sushanta. I can see your future. When you will be nearly 45
(youth is vanishing) then you will feel like getting married to a 25 year old
“beautiful sexy maiden” and you will do so and live happily ever after.

Reaching at 45…… getting married
only once? Lol…… What about not getting married at all and making many
girls happy instead of making only one? lol.

what do you mean, making many girls
happy? Are you making many girls happy with the marital games… LOL 😀

one is the number you start with…
LOL…

You can never anyone ‘HAPPY’ in
marital game! ‘True Happiness’ lies anywhere else! lol.

as you know the definition of True
Happiness… go on… share with us… make me happy today

thanx for adding few more lines

..I don’t think one has to be
unmarried to make many women happy..is happiness subjective here

Girish…… Learnt a new dimension of
happiness from you! (probably I knew it earlier, just became sure from an
experienced person. Thanks! )

……. Huh!

yes experienced man…that’s
right….still experiencing

3 September 2009

Girls are like shadow. If you run
after them, they will run away from you. If you run away from them, they will
run after you.

…… Girls act like silent
listeners, but if you can’t guess their acting, you’ll never have to look for
miseries, rather miseries will collect your address!

Sweet mistakes….. How can you but
make mistakes when you feel no offence but an urge in making them? lolz…..

Reflection: Four hundred and seventy-eight

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3 September 2009

Son: Is God man or, woman?…
Father: Both, my son!…. Son: Black or, White?… Father: Both, my son,
both!…. Son: Papa! Is Michael Jackson God?

In the world, most of the jokes are
about doctors and lawyers. And we know they serve the society best. There are
nothing called good jokes or, bad jokes. Our acceptability makes it so. Thanks.

I think, it’s agreeable to be passionate,
but disgraceful to be fanatic, it often destroys our power of free thinking.
Why should we be devoid of the tolerance to take a joke only for a joke and
nothing else? If we eliminate the dark side of a matter, can we analyze it
comprehensively at all? I again request my friends not to mean any offence for
that joke. Thanks.

Thanks for your comments. If I
didn’t post this status message, I’d never come to how awfully fanatic men
could be about a simple joke even unnecessarily drawing the context of God……..
I’d like to put a simple request before you: For God’s sake, spare God!

Thanks.

3 September 2009

What type of person do you prefer
most? Conservative? or, Liberal?

Sushanta Paul I’d like to
add…….. Values blended with aesthetic flavour!

3 September 2009

Friends! For God’s sake, hold your
tongue and let me love!

Again, there are some views we feel
like sharing but society can’t accept the urge hyperactively.

When the crescent moon of the fifth night has drowned, it longs to die…….. (I, too, feel this yearning! Would anyone care to accompany me?)

The evening star departed long ago! I await the moment when night-wandering birds will come and sing their songs! O night, why won’t you linger a while longer! Beloved, with the signal of your dark eyes, ask the clouds to move aside, let silver moonlight come and wash your chin!

………… No leisure, you say,
friend? Leisure never just exists—one must create it.

4 September 2009

Sometimes, thinking of you, everything feels chaotic……..sometimes, who draws other pictures in your eyes…… I cannot fathom your mind at all, so familiar you are, yet why do you seem so strange?

Translation: Sometimes I feel like
acting crazy when you peep through my heart…… Then I even fail to ponder over
your portrait….. Your mind seems enigmatic to me…… When I feel like
losing you into oblivion, I also lose myself!

The breath in which you are mingled, when that too disappears, what remains of me then—tell me? Then the foot soldiers of silence come and surround me. I vanish, but cannot escape.

4 September 2009

Like first love, my first poem comes and says……..take my hand, let’s go to that unknown distant land……

Translation: Like my first love, my
first poetry yearns to me to escort it to the distant fairyland with a blend of
imagination.

The path unknown — today I shall walk upon it!

4 September 2009

About which matters do people feel
shy, or pretend to feel shy?

Hmm… I don’t think that the world
is full of genuine (!) shy persons, rather it is full of persons who like to
pretend to be shy for some reasons!

If you feel shy anymore, I swear
I’ll feel shy from my heart! Hehehe

You shy guy are leaving us. I’m
happy as a competitor of mine to be shameless is leaving! I’m the best
shameless. lolz

Yea! I was awaiting this vital
point. So true. More obvious in case of illegal sex.

Sushanta, I wonder if you go to
school……..you’re on FB all day, I think.

4 September 2009

Consequences of American life style:
The wife rushed into the house screaming to her husband, Darling, come quick!
your kids and my kids are beating our kids!

I know it is only a joke, but it
does not change the fact that such jokes create misunderstandings that lead to
prejudiced thinking!

How would you feel if the joke were
instead about unhappy arranged marriages, or honour killings due to a love
marriage? Answer that honestly!

Thought: Four hundred eighty-nine

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4 September 2009

If you love someone but he/she
doesn’t care you or your feelings, should you still yearn for his/her sympathy?

Sushanta! you should say “few girls”……and remember you got what you gave once.

Friends! I’d like to share an idea with you. If anyone leaves you, just wait. He/she will come back to you if he/she was yours. If he/she does not, he/she was never yours. Do you support or believe this?

Love always finds its course itself. No matter how we instigate through its perspective. Now, what’s the use of one-sided love? Is it not a pity for oneself? Does it not demolish one’s personality? I think, notwithstanding love’s spontaneous flow, we should never deny the urge to uplift our self-dignity and yield to those who don’t even care for us. Do you agree with me?

Ok. I’m rather replacing the word ‘disgusting’ with the word ‘displeasing’. Hope now my previous statement bears no offensive notion. Thanks for the warning. @Sanjiv.

……………If anyone falls in love, he usually loses the power of thinking independently and judging something shrewdly so as to avoid a possible disaster. What’s the use of continuing to love a person without telling him/her that plainly? That’s probably plainly liking, not love!

love defies reasons reasonably!

The greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return (from nature boy) – if you love someone, you can never seek sympathy, only love is desired in return!

If that doesn’t happen, that shouldn’t stop that love, but of course the typical love affair is not expected when it’s one sided – definitely sympathy is not appropriate at all in case of love… but I know where seeking sympathy can occur. Sometimes people become obsessed about another person (that’s not love, obsession) but they think that it is, in that case when they find out that they won’t be loved in return, then they seek sympathy… but it wasn’t love in the first place!

….. Obsession, not love! Good point, I admit!

4 September 2009

To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Friends! Then, what may be the possible solution to avoid suffering?

“ভালোবাসা মানে দুঃখ পাওয়া। দুঃখ থেকে বাঁচতে হলে ভালোবাসা যাবে না। কিন্তু তাহলে ভালোবাসা না করার দুঃখ পেতে হয়। সুতরাং ভালোবাসলে দুঃখ, না ভালোবাসলেও দুঃখ। দুঃখ মানেই দুঃখ। সুখী হতে হলে ভালোবাসতে হয়। তাহলে সুখী হওয়া মানে দুঃখ পাওয়া। কিন্তু দুঃখ মানুষকে অসুখী করে। সুতরাং অসুখী হতে হলে ভালোবাসতে হবে, নয়তো দুঃখ পেতে ভালোবাসতে হবে, নয়তো অতিরিক্ত সুখের দুঃখ পেতে হবে। আশা করি তুমি এসব টুকে রাখছ।” – উডি অ্যালেন, লাভ অ্যান্ড ডেথ।

এবার বলতে চাই, একতরফা প্রেম কি গ্রহণযোগ্য? শুধু তোমার নয় এমন যন্ত্রণা কেন তুমি পাবে? ঈর্ষার যন্ত্রণা? আচ্ছা। এটা কি পুরোপুরি তোমার ব্যক্তিগত নয়? এটা কি মেনে নেওয়া উচিত? প্রেমে যন্ত্রণা গ্রহণযোগ্য। কিন্তু অকারণ যন্ত্রণার কী প্রয়োজন? তুমি হয়তো কোনো দাবি বা প্রত্যাশা ছাড়াই ভালোবেসে যেতে পারো, কিন্তু বলতে পারো এর পরিণতি কী? পারস্পরিক বোঝাপড়া নির্বিশেষে শেষ পর্যন্ত কি এটা শুধু তোমার দিকেই থেকে যায় না?

আমি কোনো স্বর্গীয় পরিকল্পনা নিয়ে কখনো অবশতায় ভুগি না।

প্রেমের ক্ষেত্রে আমরা কি কখনো ‘প্রতারণা’ শব্দটিকে সংজ্ঞায়িত করতে পারি? এটা কি পক্ষপাতদুষ্ট ধারণা নয়?

যা মানুষের কাছে অপ্রাসঙ্গিক হতে পারে, তা শোনাতে তাদের জোর করার দরকার নেই। আমি জানি অধিকাংশ মানুষ কেমন, কিন্তু নিজের সাথে সততা রাখাটা অত্যন্ত গুরুত্বপূর্ণ। সেই স্তরে পৌঁছানোর জন্য প্রয়োজন অত্যন্ত দৃঢ় ব্যক্তিত্ব আর খুব কম মানুষেরই সেই গুণ আছে, তবে সংখ্যাটা একেবারে শূন্য নয়।

আরও মনে হয়, দৃঢ় ব্যক্তিত্ব থাকলে আর সত্যিকারের প্রেমে থাকলে কখনো মিথ্যে বলার দরকার হয় না – প্রেম মরে গেলেই প্রতারণা আসে।

আচ্ছা। মনে হয় তোমরা ‘প্রতারণা’র সাথে ‘ত্যাগ করা’কে গুলিয়ে ফেলছ! হাহা…

প্রতারণার চেয়ে ত্যাগ করা ভালো! শুনতে স্বাস্থ্যকর! চাও? হাহাহা…….

আসলে এটাই প্রায়ই নিয়ম, ব্যতিক্রম নয়…আর আমি আবারও বলছি প্রতারণা মানে প্রচলিত অর্থে অবিশ্বস্ততা নয়

চমৎকার কথা! “প্রতারণা মানে অবিশ্বস্ততা নয়”

আমি এটা দৃঢ়ভাবে বিশ্বাস করি সুশান্ত……..আর সব দম্পতি যদি এটা বুঝত, তাহলে সব সম্পর্কেই বেশি নিরাপত্তা আর ভালোবাসা থাকত

বাস্তব জগতে পূর্বীয় সমাজে বিয়ের আগে ‘প্রতারণা বা প্রতারিত হওয়ার’ কারণে বিশ্বস্ততা থাকা সত্ত্বেও প্রায়ই বিবাহ ভেঙে যায়।

৫ সেপ্টেম্বর ২০০৯

আজকাল মনে হয় বেশিরভাগ সিনেমাই এমন যেগুলো শুধু কারাগার আর বিমানে দেখানো উচিত, কারণ কেউ পালাতে পারে না। বন্ধুরা! একমত? নাকি দ্বিমত?

5 September 2009

Love is the only truth that rules
reasonably without any reason.

I’ve not yet told those best words I
can tell you, haven’t sung the loveliest song you wanted to listen!

An untouched heart is the loveliest
flower yet to bloom.

6 September 2009

People never salute you; they just
salute your position. What’s the use of you but for your position?

I’ve no antipathy for them. I just
object to the attitude they tend to show. (No offence meant)

What’s the use of a position without
that?

Thought: Four Hundred Eighty

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6 September 2009

In most cases, handsome boys aren’t
married to lovely girls and lovely girls aren’t married to handsome boys.
Friends! Is this tragic paradox true? or, not?

When I attend in affair-marriage
parties, I often recall that love is blind!

Again in case of arranged marriage,
I also often find unwarrantable mismatch that is never agreeable. I personally
can never approve this type of marriage.

Not always destroys, nevertheless
this type of marriage shouldn’t be approved, should it?

Hmm…… Handsome guys and lovely
gals can make a social campaign against this injustice of God. Who are with me?
lolz……

6 September 2009

Friends! Which is the best ornament
of a man: Beauty? Brain? Money? Status? or, Anything else?

Brain, money, position would be
ornament of one’s when one know how to utilize those.

So, better to be an idiot. No
tension of utilizing any inner faculty!

What about self-confidence……the
magic that lies within us?

Very few people can tell about ones
self-confidence with courageous, coz confidence is a very both hard and heavy
word. But it’s the most important also.

I differ. I think self-confidence is
a psychological matter which can be attained only when you think you’ve
attained otherwise not. Thanks.

Sorry to say that I’ve failed to
make the sense clear. I just want to tell that self-confidence is a
psychological faculty. If you think you’re self-confident, then you’re
self-confident and it’s the secret of success. Thanks.

Is there anything called fate and
Almighty? We get reward of what we do and deserve………… A person can
never fail, he can just be delayed in reaching his/her goal….

if you believe that you have no
self-confidence, it’s true. if you believe you have that, it’s also true

Money holds the supreme power that
can pervade all others virtues materially, yet many points remain unanswered.

Getting a blend of all the
above-mentioned virtues is next to impossible.

Hmm….. For attracting a woman
physically, a robust physical set-up is essential. But anyone can build up it
easily.

7 September 2009

Friends! Which is the best novel you
have ever read?

For a thousand years

very difficult to name one…….but
yes, Atlas shrugged, Fountain head, We the people and Anthem.

Life!

Would have to be atlas shrugged,
fountain head and on the opposite end of the spectrum, bridges of Madison
county………All so intense in their varied emotions.

War And Peace

All quiet on the western front.

First Light

Catch 22

Epitaph, Telescope, Song of the Road

My favorite novel is ‘The Mountain of the Moon.’
Mother used to tell it to us when we were little, and we three siblings would listen entranced. Later I read it many more times. Each time it felt as though I was discovering the novel anew. When I grew up and was doing my Master’s in Bengali, I really loved The Forest. Still, ‘The Mountain of the Moon’
remains the finest novel I have ever read.

The Good Earth

Its real hard 2 name just 1!
impossible 4 me. The Poet, the outsider, Mother, Boatman of the Padma, The Poisonous Tree,
That Time,
Moonlight and
Mother’s Story,
A Weak Man, The Glass Sea

The Pyre-Chariot,
The Characterless One, The Tale of Puppet Dance

Will just name a few- as I
remember……The One (Richard Bach)-it’s my fav, Secret Garden, Jane Eyre, Gone
with the wind, War and Peace, The Hunchback of Notredame ( I cried reading
this), The Citadel, Ayn Rand’s The Fountainhead (a very unique character-
Howard Roark) and We The Living, Animal Farm (hilarious as well, lol),
Dracula(lol)no I mean it.., Around the world in 80 days (ooph, the
determination and perseverance of Mr.Fogg)..Pride and Prejudice, Harry Potter
all series…..Narnia series……Outer Banks by Ann Rivers Siddons..the list
will go on as I think more.so better stop here.

Midday

the fountainhead, les miserables

the Holes

Storm Signal,
Godfather, First Light

Harry Potter…………

Sivaji Roy Alchemist

can’t say only one – there are so
many – but from recent reading The first and the Last men (Olaf Stapledon),
Hitchhiker’s guide to the galaxy (Douglas Adams), most of Pushkin’s novels

the kite runner, thorn birds, 75
park avenue

The old man & the sea, Three
comrades and A farewell to arms, The adventures of Tom Saywer and Huckleberry
Fin, La miserable, The da vinci code, Godfather.

Dear Friends! I’m very happy to find
some book-maniacs like me. Now it’s my turn. Too many to mention…. Anyway,
some of them are:

Animal farm, Crime & punishment,
Gone with the wind, Lord of flies, Love Story, Mother, One hundred years of
solitude, Pride & prejudice, Sons & lovers, The da vinci code, The old
man and the sea, The Picture of Dorian Gray, Ulysses, War & peace,
Withering Heights, Huckleberry Finn, Brick Lane, The kite runner, Les
Miserables, Gora, The Unvanquished, The Characterless,
The Poet, First Light…….
and many others

From the Volga to the Ganges, Fifty-six Thousand Square Miles,
Shubhobrato and
Related Gospels,
First Light,
That Time,
The Orderly

Freedom at Midnight

If you like real life stories about
read Infectious Greed: How Deceit and Risk Corrupted the Financial Markets it
is about the fin scams.

8 September 2009

When I find none worthy of talking,
I rather like talking to myself because I like talking to better class of
people.

Better to dream than to start losing
it!

While talking to myself I never
bother about that. Nothing great comes out deliberately!

Better class involves the class I
talk to. (Friends! I’m now talking to you! )

Thought: Four Hundred Eighty-One