Nine Minds Like the Mind

I'm bursting your bubble of fantasy—don't mind me.

You won't meet someone who likes exactly the same kind of music you do. Or perhaps you'll end up with someone who doesn't like a single film from your favorite movies list. At best, they'll sit with you and give you their time, won't interfere with what you enjoy, though what you love might not be what they love. They won't be the perfect someone from your dreams, but there's nothing wrong with that.

Your last love ended badly—that doesn't mean you'll never find love again in this life. Believe me, you will fall in love again, someone will love you again. But remember this too: all those things you've planned in your mind that you and they will do together—you might have to forget those dreams or change them somewhat. Love stories are beautiful, but rarely turn out exactly as we imagine.

Put those romantic books aside—life isn't like that. What you imagine and find joy in, that's exactly what's written in books to boost their sales. The same is true of movies. What people want but can't have, movies give them in their minds. Movie love and real-life love are not the same.

The way we grow up "understanding" love is quite ridiculous. Most of the time, you won't find your ideal love in the first person. Yes, you'll have to keep searching. If you don't take time to find the one you'll spend your whole life with, you'll waste your entire life crying. Let me tell you a secret. Often you'll see that you yourself aren't ready to accept love. Sometimes you'll see that love itself isn't ready to accept you. You don't easily find your heart's person. You have to search. The truth is, whoever you feel you could spend your life with, whatever kind of person they are, you'll eventually come to think of them as your heart's person.

Take time, don't rush. This isn't clothing that you can alter the size of later. One day you'll meet someone to whom you'll gradually grow weak. Someone for whose preferences you'll be willing to rearrange your life. Someone with whom you'll be able to do even the most absurd things in the world.

But don't ever think you'll find someone exactly to your liking. I'm not saying this never happens. I'm saying it rarely happens. Always remember, you're not as special as you think you are. You have many things about you that annoy others.

You love Rabindra Sangeet, you don't like red curtains. One day you'll find yourself hanging red curtains in your bedroom. But that same person will sit and nod their head to Rabindra Sangeet with you, because they like it too. You love books very much—that doesn't mean you'll meet your beloved while browsing in bookstores or libraries. Perhaps you'll meet them buying pineapples from a roadside cart.

If you find someone like the person you're looking for in your mind, try to hold onto them, don't let them go—even if they don't love listening to Rabindra Sangeet! Not everyone who listens to Rabindra Sangeet in this world is good; not everyone who doesn't listen to it is bad. Most importantly, when people fall in love, they start liking many things about their beloved.

Love is not perfect. You are not perfect either. Your beloved will not be perfect either.