When you love someone, you never need to monitor their every move. Those who do find that no one wants to stay connected with them. You love someone, and in that supposed right, you're watching over all their affairs. What happens then? They'll want to escape from you. They'll begin to fear you. Eventually, fed up, they'll leave you behind. Love is simply accepting someone as they are. Some aspects of them you'll like, others you won't. If you want to be with them, you must embrace both. If you cause pain to someone you claim to love, they'll slowly retreat from you in their heart. You might tell them how much you're suffering, that they shouldn't treat you this way, that they should try to understand your pain... and so on and so forth. Then, even if they don't say it aloud, they'll think to themselves: let you die if you want to die. What's it to them? With someone as tiresome as you, only negative thoughts about you will gradually take root in their mind. People lose those they love for three main reasons: giving space in their mind to unnecessary overthinking, excessive monitoring of their beloved, and seeing simple things as needlessly complicated. People live with two kinds of people: First, those they want to stay close to. Second, those they want to run away from. Now the choice is yours—which of these two types do you want to place yourself among?
Knowing How to Accept
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