Girl, love yourself—save yourself!

 You sent her a message. She replied. Conversations flowed, you became friends.
  
 In time, you fell in love with her. You proposed. She asked for time to think. You began taking great care of her. Eventually, she said yes.
  
 Time passed. Dates, embraces, kisses. Eyes meeting eyes, hands clasped as you both dissolved into another world. Ah, what a new universe it seemed! She went absolutely mad for you! Everything in her life turned completely upside down!
  
 She truly fell deeply in love with you. Such intimate, such pure love! All day she texts you, wants to talk with you. All night you both talk, losing yourselves together somewhere beyond reach! She misses you constantly. Never leaves you alone. She wants you to be consumed with thoughts of her just as she is with you. Nothing exists in her mind now except you.
  
 At first, all this felt wonderful to you. Such care, such love, such thrills—you'd never imagined the world could hold such things! For a while, it was blissful.
  
 Then one day it suddenly struck you: is this girl crazy or what? Why is she acting like this? Does any normal person behave this way? Doesn't she really have anything else to do? Why is she sticking to me like glue all the time? Strange! Don't I have other things to do? What's the problem?
  
 Now you only feel suffocated. Extremely irritated. Sometimes despair takes hold too. It feels like someone is constantly following you. You have no freedom left, nothing personal remains. When her call or text comes, now you feel a kind of fear. Even the thought of her brings a strange irritation. All your attraction and love for her began slowly fading away.
  
 One day your mind finally rebelled. You started avoiding her. No messages, no phone calls, no anything!
  
 Her world came crashing down, the ground slipped from beneath her feet. She began crying like a madwoman, became even more desperate. She truly loves you so much. She cannot accept such neglect. The poor girl seemed to have fallen into a bottomless ocean.
  
 You realized the situation was becoming more tangled. Grave danger ahead! You had to escape immediately, or it would be too late. Love isn't everything; now you need peace. You made your decision—enough, no more! It's better for both of you to part ways now.
  
 You told her all this. Very coolly, in a cold voice.
  
 Hearing it all, she seemed to approach death itself! Her heart shattered into pieces, she sat alone on the attic floor crying like a madwoman. She crumbled bit by bit. Today she has nothing left. Her entire world has suddenly gone dark. Not a single reason to live remains before her today. Her carefully arranged life was destroyed without any fault of her own!
 That one decision of yours has ended everything for her today! Living now means somehow counting moments as they pass. Today her breath stops, she can only take deep breaths at long intervals. The one for whom she once lived, today because of him she must count each breath. Today she's like a lifeless bird trapped in a lightless cage!
  
 But you're doing fine. You've blocked her everywhere; she can't reach you even from new numbers. Today the entire meaning of her existence is your blacklist!
 Tell me, think for a moment about her condition? Did she come to you on her own, or did you yourself draw her in? Whatever existed between you two—didn't you have full participation and shelter in it too? Think for a moment what she's going through! Once upon a time, you were the one checking whether she was eating, whether she needed anything, whether she was well, whether her heart was happy, and so much more! And today? That she goes without eating, that she spends her days in intimate embrace with death, that she loves you far too much, that she simply cannot accept any of this—doesn't any of this truly cross your mind?
  
 Don't these thoughts really come to your mind? Doesn't thinking of her cause you pain? Not even a little...no?
 No...perhaps not. She is destroyed today. You are responsible for this. Yes, you have murdered her with your own hands. Deliberately, on a whim. Why did you do such a thing?
  
 Because of mere attraction to someone, you destroyed her life like this? Her future, her present, her past...you made it all meaningless? Day after day you let her float in an ocean of dreams, and today you've drowned her life in such nightmares?
  
 If you can't marry someone, why call her your wife? If one day you won't be able to tolerate someone, why give her so much encouragement? Is everything so simple? Are girls playthings—to be played with and broken when the game ends? What is mere play for you might be an entire lifetime for her! To live as a human being, one must think about such things, must be humane above all else. Are boys forbidden from becoming human?
  
 Girl, let me speak to you too. Learn to understand your own dignity. One day you too will be a mother. If a mother's self-respect is so little, from whom will her child learn to live with head held high? You're someone's sister, aren't you? Have you ever thought how your brother or sister feels seeing you in pain?
  
 The family you belong to, the family that you once always placed second to your boyfriend in your mistaken heart—the people in that family truly suffer greatly seeing you in such pain. Believe me, even if no one else does, they...do! Those friends to whom you gave no time day after day just for that wrong person—they too feel very, very happy seeing you well. If you don't believe it, go and see for yourself!
  
 Girl, never make this mistake again. Be a girlfriend, not reckless. Boys can't take that much. Whatever they say, they truly can't take that much. Time shows everything. If you're constantly hanging before someone's eyes, when will they get a chance to miss you? Even constantly seeing a photo of a beloved deceased person, eventually people stop seeing it in their heart and only see it with their eyes. Remember, boys truly don't think the way girls do.
  
 Think a little—those you neglected so much then, today in this stormy time, they're the ones beside you. The one for whom you neglected them, in these days of your pain, far from checking on you, he doesn't even have time to remember you.
  
 Be just to yourself. Forget him, even by force if necessary. You're thinking, what kind of talk is this? Can one forget by force? Yes, yes, one can—if the will is strong enough. Remove all his memories, burn everything of his. What burns you, you burn it too. One who doesn't know how to burn must burn day and night. Change your intent, and destiny will change too. Simple calculation! How can destiny change!? You're thinking rightly—it doesn't change; but what you think is destiny surely changes, if you can change your intent!
  
 A girl who can do something as unbearably painful as bringing a new human being into this world—can't she do the simple task of removing one old, unnecessary person from her world!?