A Few Courtesies

Come, let's learn some courtesy.

When you go to a wedding or feast, take only as much food as you can actually eat—in fact, take a little less than you need. If you can eat more or feel like it, then take another helping, but in moderation.

Piling your plate like a demon with more food than you need, then wasting what you don't eat, is the height of rudeness. The food you're wasting cost your host a considerable amount of money. Just because you're getting it free doesn't mean your host got it for free too.

When you meet someone at a wedding or event, asking questions like "Why have you gotten so thin? Don't you eat? Why have you put on weight? Eat less! Why do you have acne on your face?" is nothing short of proof of your stupidity. When meeting someone, stick to "How are you?" and other pleasantries—don't ask personal questions about their physical appearance, finances, or private matters. Many people lose the courage to attend events just to avoid such irrelevant, inappropriate questions.

Think about it—people actually stop socializing altogether just to avoid these questions! If you have nothing to ask, nothing meaningful to say, no smartness to carry on a conversation, then stay quiet rather than become a source of annoyance.

Don't even jokingly ask newly married couples what the bride's family has given, what they sent for Eid, whether they provided a cow or goat for Qurbani, etc. Such questions reveal your petty mindset. To escape the barrage of such questions, many parents feel compelled to send this and that after their daughter's wedding, even when they can't afford it—sometimes they're even forced to sell their land and ancestral home.

When a group of people are together, don't single out one or two by saying things like "You look the most beautiful." This implies that everyone else doesn't look good or isn't beautiful. Such thoughtless comments create inferiority complexes in others. They start thinking they're less attractive or less well-groomed.

If you reform yourself, the whole world will reform. If you change, much of the world will change with you. You don't need a PhD to learn common sense. Knowledge that doesn't teach wisdom is worthless.

If you wake up, many people in the world will find it easier to live. Because by watching you, your generation and many others will learn such nonsense and start accepting these awful, disgusting behaviors as normal.

The way out? Nothing complicated—just having a bit of sense in your head will do.

But even if you have a head full of brains, if you don't use them properly, there's not much difference between your brain and the rotting dung lying in a cowshed. Modern people lack nothing in knowledge—they just lack common sense. Before becoming an ocean of knowledge, at least become a pond of wisdom.

Who has time to waste on the knowledge of learned fools who lack common sense—you tell me!